How to Find a Mentor

Dear Fellow Toastmasters

I hope you have done your home work since my latest speech on the 27^th April when I asked you to think about having a mentor for you.

Hi

I am georghe Rusky and today I will tell you how to start searching a mentor and what qualification a mentor of your dream should have.

First you have to determine clearly in which area of human expertise you would like to achieve top results and if you can do without help. To be successful we need

By going to people who are ahead of you in the personal or professional arena you can save months (maybe even years) and thousands of dollars to learn what you need to learn all by yourself. To be successful, we have to find people who have already paid the price to help us learn the things, that we need to learn to achieve our goals.

The mentors you choose should be people you respect, admire and want to be like. The advice you seek should be guidance regarding your character and personality and specific ideas on how you can do your job better and faster. Remember, you can’t figure it all out for yourself. You have to have the help of others. You have to find men and women who will guide you and advise you on the road of life, or you will take a long, long time getting anywhere.

There fore the first requirement for the mentor is competence

The mentors you choose should be people you respect, admire, and want to be like. The advice you seek should be guidance regard­ing your character and personality and specific ideas on how you can do your job better and faster. Remember, you can't figure it all out by yourself. You must have the help of others. You must find men and women who will guide you and advise you on the road of life, or you will take a long, long time getting anywhere.

There are two vital qualities to look for in a mentor. The first is character and the second is competence.

Character is by far the most important. Look for a mentor who has the kind of character you admire and respect. Look for a person who has high degrees of intelligence, integrity, judgment and wisdom. The more you associate with men and women who are advanced in the development of their character, the more you will tend to pattern them and to become like them.

The second quality you look for in a mentor is competence. This means that the person is extremely good at what he or she does. A good mentor in your career is one who has the knowledge, skills, and abilities to move ahead far more rapidly than his or her peers.

The impact of a mentor on your life is dependent on two addi­tional factors. The first is your degree of openness to being influenced by another person. Openness is so important because many people, especially young people, are extremely impatient, always looking for shortcuts. When they get advice on something that another person has spent many years learning, they often try to add their own varia­tions and improve on it without ever having mastered the original instruction.

Remember, when you open yourself up to guidance and input from another person, concentrate first on understanding and learning exactly what that person has to teach you. Afterward, you can modify and change that lesson to suit your changing circumstances.

The second factor that determines the influence of a mentor on your life is the willingness of the mentor to help you in every way possible to achieve your goals. We know that the more emotionally involved someone is in our lives, the more susceptible we are to being influenced by that person. When you seek out a mentor, you must look for someone who genuinely cares about you as a person and who really wants you to be successful in your endeavors.

So, for a good mentor-protégé relationship, you must be wide open to the influence and instruction of the other person, and at the same time, the mentor must be genuinely concerned about your well-being and your ultimate success. These are the two essentials.

Your ability to choose your mentors can be a crucial step toward achievement in all areas of your life. So here are 12 steps for building successful mentor-protégé relationships:

1) Set clear goals for yourself in every area of your life. Know exactly what you want to accomplish before you start thinking of the type of person who can help you accomplish it.

2) Determine the things you will have to do in order to achieve your goals, the obstacles you will have to overcome, and the roadblocks you will have to surmount.

3) Identify the areas of knowledge, skill, and expertise you will have to acquire in order to overcome the obstacles existing between you and your goals.

4) Look around for the most successful people in the areas in which you will need the most help.

5) Join the clubs, organizations, and business associations these people belong to.

6) Once you have joined these organizations, become actively involved and volunteer for responsibilities. This will bring you to the attention of the people you want to meet faster than anything else.

7) Work, study, and practice continually to get better and better at what you do. The very best mentors are interested in helping you only if they feel it is going to be worth their time. You will have no problem attracting people to you when you develop a reputation for being up-and-coming in your field.

8) When you find a potential mentor, don't make a nuisance of yourself. Instead, ask for 10 minutes of his or her time, in person, in private. Nothing more. Remember, most potential mentors are busy people, and they may be opposed to some­one's trying to take up a lot of their time. It's not personal.

9) When you meet with a potential mentor, express your eager­ness to be more successful in your field. Tell him or her that you would very much appreciate a little guidance and advice to help you move ahead. Ask for an answer to a specific question, for a specific book or audio program recommendation, or for a specific idea that has been helpful to him or her in the past.

10) After the initial meeting, send a thank-you note expressing your gratitude and appreciation for his or her time and guidance. Mention that you hope to meet again if you have another question.

11) Each month, drop your mentor a short note telling him or her about what you are doing and how you are progressing. Nothing makes a mentor more open to helping you further than your making it clear that the previous help has done you some good.

12) Arrange to meet with your mentor again, perhaps on a monthly basis, or even more often if you work closely together.

Over the course of your life, you will have many mentor-protégé relationships. As you grow and develop, you will seek out different mentors, the people who can give you the kind of advice that is most relevant to your current situation.

Successful people are very open to helping other people who want to be successful. This is especially true if they know you are willing to be a mentor to others who are younger and less experienced than you. The more open you are to helping others up the ladder of success, the more open others will be to helping you.

George Rusky VPPR, CC

Communication. A Draft for the webpage

Dear Ladies and Gentlemen

   Communication is a process of transmitting a message from one person to another or to a group of people.

How do you assess your ability to communicate with the world around you on the scale of one to ten?

Is it 9 or 3 or five?

Hi I am George Rusky and on this page I would like to talk about a process of communication as I see it.

             First I want to thank the Lord my parents forgiving me the gift of producing sounds and words in my native language and in a few other ones, for the miracle of articulating and producing the words in a sentence smoothly with out any verbal problems. In short for the ability to communicate.

            Now, as I have such a wonderful gift, isn’t is wise and logical to give the best use to this gift and learn how to communicate with others and gain an image of a pleasant expected-met-greeted everywhere individual, rather than a portrait of a boring unpleasant fellow whom people have no desire to invite and flock with.

But, you may say, if communication is a gift given to you, can it be earned or learned or trained? Isn’t it is something you either have or don’t have.

         And now we have arrived at the point where I always have problems with anyone I share my philosophy of self-development ad self-improvement.

   According to this philosophy, almost anything can be learned and improved if only a man or a woman badly wants to acquire a new skill. Be it the skill of playing the guitar or painting.

I personally strongly believe: it is possible!

I also believe that those who declare that if you have no talent, say, to be a writer, you will never become one.

I guess they say that because they want to hide their laziness to start doing something that goes beyond their daily routines.

And, what is more, they do not want let others to develop their new skills.

By the way, the strongest argument of the supporters “you will never…” is that they compare the enthusiast of self-development to champions in the field.

This approach is wrong. The only one way to compare is when a person compares herself   of today, to her as she was a week or a month ago and sees that she has made a great progress…

Now if you agree with my approach to learning new skills, we can easily move to learning the skill of communication and to learn it with Toastmasters International where the skill of communication occupies the central position, the core of the whole Toastmasters Educational system.

Why Toastmasters, actually? Aren’t there any other offers on the market?

No!

          Toastmasters is the only one organizational where anybody can start speaking to the audience in a friendly, supportive and positive environment of people who joined a TM club for the same very reason: to become a better communicator and leader. 

Dear friend

 If you really want to create your future success in personal and professional life, strong communication and leadership skills are a must, you aught to come to a meeting of a Toastmasters club and see what it’s like to become a strong and inspired leader.

Why is such a long introduction?

To explain to you my position of self development without borders, which is also true for learning the skill of communication and leadership, the two main educational directions learned and practiced at Toastmasters.

   Learning communication with the Toastmasters. What is so unique about that?

There is a number of serious benefits of the Toastmasters educational program that make it possible in a short time to become a better communicator an a leader.

              Let’s think about your own communication and leadership experience, the real people you met, the movies you have seen the books you have read and the stories you have heard, in short, all that has created I you a picture of people equally good at speaking and leading versus the ones who failed in both these skills.

What is your ideal portrait of a leader and communicator?....